Friday, December 26, 2008

while people were busying complaining about others....

...they forget to complain about themselves

i was having a conversation with a friend, who complaint A LOT uols!

she said
"kau tau, aku slalu kalau pulang ke msia, mesti ada je org yg seolah memandang rendah bakal2 dokter yg belajar kat indon ni. macam2 lah dorang tanya aku, laku tak ijazah indon ni, akreditasi ke tak, boleh bersaing dgn dokter dari u msia / negara lain ke, dan lain2 lagi lah. aku rasa geram sgt. marah pun adaaa..." (ntah apa lagi dia cakap, panjang sgt)

aku jawab
"if later, u finish ur study, u return to malaysia as a doctor, as a non competent one, even if they said things like that that time, u shouldn't be mad, as that ur fault.
but it's different situation if u work urself since now, or yesteryears, to become a good one, u return to malaysia, do a great work as a doctor, what left for people have to say that time?
to hell people's perceptions, if u r not what people were thinking of u. and another thing is, by our age, i assume we all matured enough to think what's good for us, kan?
bad or good? it's ur choice. and ur effort too.

p/s- my intention at first saying those thing to her, was to make her shut up already, tired lah dodol nak dgr org mengeluh memanjang. itu adalah niat sebenar. hik. tapi kan...

after all that i-am-so-philosophed-person thingy happened, then, i realize something, about the truth lies in my words. my own words turn back to me and became a reminder for myself...

aku pulak yg jadi sedar dgn kata2 aku sendiri
(tentang diri sendiri yang perlu berusaha ke arah yang baik. bukan tentang complaint meng-complaint ok. tak da pun aku kata kat kawan aku, "berenti la mengeluh". aku suruh dia berusaha je, perpustakaan ada, pensyarah ada, dsbnya. gunalah, supaya balik Malaysia nanti, tak la jadi doktor yg bodoh)


syukur, Alhamdulillah =D


p p/s- so, this entry was the story behind a short entry i posted not so long ago

kalau tak mahu orang mengata sesuatu yang buruk tentang diri kita...kita jangan beri orang lain alasan untuk mengata sesuatu yang buruk tentang diri kita.

and i dont have intention to point out if complaining were a bad thing, what i want to point out is,

BE THE CHANGE U WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD -gandhi-

and here, let me explain, regarding the story, if my friend want to live in a world without critics pointed to her later as a doctor, then she should become a good one.

p p p/s- kalau pun ada org yg mengata pasal aku, sebab dia ada alasan dia, aku jugak yg kasi alasan tu kat dia kan, erti kata lain, salah aku la.
kalau kita tak beri org lain alasan(buat sesuatu yg menjadi alasan org lain) utk mengata kita, apa org boleh kata ttg kita?

Damai!!! =D

7 comments:

n u r i d r i n said...

dan terima kasih utk nasihat ini!
aku tak bakal jadi doktor,
but ur advise applies.

Anonymous said...

Not to be antagonistic or anything, but by posting your friend's whole comment is making you look like you're complaining about her...

Well it can't be helped since you're trying to make a point here, right? Sorry, hope you're not offended.

Dayangku Nuraini Wahed said...

wow, shan, congratulations for realizing haha.

btw, anonymous, that's the whole point of doing a blog, to make a point. anyway, at the end, he said that he realized kan his own words, meaning he realizes that he's complaining about his friend (d'uh)

ruffey said...
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ruffey said...

nuridrin
sama-sama. aku ikut gembira kalau kau dapat sesuatu dr entri ni =D

anonymous
no comment. hmm

Dayang
terima kasih tak terhingga kerana sudi back up aku =D ko mmg BFF =D

Dayangku Nuraini Wahed said...

sama2 =D

anyway, aku bkn saja2
setuju sbb demokrasi kan
tp komen pn kena la tgk2 btl2 the whole real meaning

d'uh

hahaha
jht bah aku ni sbnrnya kan?

~|r|a|n|d|y|~ said...

wow...
this really did happened to me today...
almost the same situation...
I did complaining about my group members...
then our YDP advise me not to keep it in my chest...
confront (in a good way la of course) he/she right away...
so that they'll know..
but before that, make sure we are doing the same thing to others... fair and square...